What is a Rave Mom? The 3 Signs to Spot One

JD Rinehart

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Are you a rave mom? If so, you know the importance of staying hydrated and well-fed while you’re dancing all night long.

Or perhaps you know someone in your rave group who is the dedicated “rave mom” of the group.

Or perhaps you have no idea what I’m talking about. Well, no need to fear, in this article I’ll be diving into what a rave mom is, why they’re called rave moms, signs that someone is a rave mom, and more.

Let’s dive in!

What is a Rave Mom?

A “rave mom” is a nickname given to someone in your raving group who takes care of everyone in the group.

This often means making sure everyone is staying hydrated and has food, but can also include things like making sure people are not doing too many drugs, or that they have a place to stay if they need it.

The term “rave mom” is usually given to women, but men can be rave moms too! Anyone can be a rave mom, you just need to have a caring personality and be responsible.

Why are They Called Rave Moms?

The term “rave mom” is derived from the term “mommy,” which is another word for mother. The term “mommy” is often used in the rave community to describe someone who takes care of others, similar to how a mother would take care of her children.

The term “rave mom” specifically started being used in the early 2000s, when the rave scene in the United States was really taking off. At this time, there was a lot of drug use at raves, so the term “rave mom” was used to describe someone who would make sure everyone was staying safe and not doing too many drugs.

Signs that Someone is a Rave Mom

There are a few key signs that someone is a rave mom.

1. Asking Everyone If They Have Food or Water

Firstly, they are usually the ones who are always making sure everyone has water and food.

They might also be the ones who are carrying around extra water and snacks for people who forget to bring them.

2. Checking on the Wellbeing of People

Rave moms are also usually the ones who are checking in on people to make sure they’re doing okay, and they’re often the ones who are helping people if they need it.

For example, if someone is too drunk or high, a rave mom will be the one to help them get to a safe place.

3. Clean Up Crew

Finally, rave moms are usually the ones who are helping to clean up after the party is over. They might be the ones picking up trash, or making sure everyone gets home safely.

Are Rave Moms in Every Rave Group?

No, not every rave group has a rave mom. Some groups are small enough that everyone takes care of each other, or there might not be anyone in the group who is responsible enough to be a rave mom.

However, in most cases, there will always be at least one person in the group who takes on this role. And, in some cases, there might be multiple people who are considered to be rave moms.

So, if you’re ever at a rave and you see someone taking care of everyone else, make sure to thank them! They are the unsung heroes of the rave scene.

Rave Daddy vs Rave Mom

There is also another term that you might hear, which is “rave daddy.” This term is used to describe a man who takes care of everyone in the group, similar to how a rave mom would.

However, the term “rave daddy” is not as common as “rave mom.” This is likely because the vast majority of people who take on this role are women.

But, just like with rave moms, there can be multiple rave daddies in a group, or even just one. And, just like with rave moms, if you see someone taking care of everyone at a rave, make sure to thank them! They are the ones making sure everyone is safe and having a good time.

How to Be a Good Rave Mom

If you want to be a good rave mom, there are a few things you can do. Most of these we’ve already touched on.

1. Make Sure Everyone Has Food and Water

Firstly, make sure that everyone in your group has food and water. This is especially important if you’re going to be at a rave all day or all night.

2. Check on People Frequently

Secondly, check on people frequently to make sure they’re doing okay. This includes checking to see if they’re too drunk or high, and making sure they have a safe place to stay if they need it.

3. Help Clean Up

Finally, help clean up after the party is over. This includes picking up trash, and making sure everyone gets home safely.

Being a rave mom is a big responsibility, but it’s also a lot of fun. So, if you want to be a good rave mom, make sure to follow these tips!

How to Thank Your Rave Mom

If you have a rave mom in your group, make sure to thank them! They are the ones who are making sure everyone is safe and having a good time.

There are a few ways you can thank your rave mom. Firstly, you can buy them a drink or some food. Secondly, you can give them a hug or a high five. Finally, you can simply say “thank you” and let them know how much you appreciate them.

So, if you have a rave mom in your group, make sure to thank them for everything they do! They are the unsung heroes of the rave scene.